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Episode 18: Julie/Zach Ertz + Relationships

Episode 18 (Julie/Zach Ertz + Relationships):

This episode of the Grim Drive Podcast, where we explore mental health through the lens of professional sports and athletes, takes a look at Julie/Zach Ertz + Relationships.

Relationships are central to what makes us human, weaving through all aspects of life, from family to friends to the workplace and even on the field/ice/court.  Intimate partner relationships, when healthy, can elevate quality of life to another level for both people involved.  With anything in life, you get what you put in and hard work leads to positive results.  Relationships are no different, often requiring mutual effort on a consistent basis to ensure positive growth.  The Ertz’, Julie and Zach, are a great example of how relationships require effort and sacrifice, with all that is put in being entirely worth it.  In this episode, we discuss our takeaways about the Ertz’ as well as discussing some tips for how to form and maintain positive relationships in life.

*The Grim Drive Podcast is a way for people to learn about mental fitness, mental health, and mental illness, through the lens of sports. We want to do our part to further reduce the stigma associated with mental health by highlighting the athletes who have shown strength through vulnerability, spoken up, and spoken out.  We want to provide listeners with mental health education, to raise awareness and reduce risk, maximizing the path to mental fitness.

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Julie/Zach Ertz episode related links:

Article Links:

Relationships:

Kristen Rocco: https://www.lovenotery.com/post/the-4-most-toxic-relationship-killers

*Plenty of these types of articles out there; I’ve always liked this one 

  • Four moves/things that ruin a relationship: “Four Horseman” by Dr. John Gottman/Institute
    • *These predict divorce 90% of the time!
  • 1. Criticism (global attack on faults/mistakes/personality/character)
    • *Often same things we see with CBT/individuals (labeling, jumping to conclusions, etc)
    • Erodes openness and trust 
  • 2. Contempt (one partner sees themselves as superior)
    • Worst of the four apparently 
  • 3. Defensiveness (taking things personally and blaming the other person instead of taking responsibility for your role in the situation)
  • 4. Stonewalling (refusing to provide answers or delaying replies; game playing)
    • Stonewaller is usually overwhelmed, so they short-circuit and avoi

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